midlife crisis when the fog lifts
Because that is something I will have to handle differently. Because if I said I wanted a D (in his mind) I ended the M. In his mind his A had no impact or reason for the D. So your H has chosen a different lifestyle. It is like he tricks himself to believe he wasnt out that long. He said he did not want to be controlled. I am going to go speak to a therapist, I think that will help. Im struggling with finances as is, I cant rub two coins to my name. WebIt was devastating news to say the least. He tells me I need to find someone who will love me like I need and deserve. I have recently went through a very similar experience (but caught the messages much earlier) and left my SO. Which is that fair? I played along b/c I had no $ to my name. Get your plan B together now. I hope it does for your H. Before it is too late. There may be many OW not just the one he is no longer talking to. Marriages can be ruined by cheating. What is 'affair fog'? - USA You can only change how you react to him. And I am much happier this way. I really hope I have done whats right. But in an altered state they believe they are fine. 25 years I loved him and have him the best and that is what he told me!! Ive always been a quick fixer so its hard to give her space. Then he texted me and said he would be out of the house asap and said so you dont think im fit to be a part of the babys life?.and when he says things like this I dont understand bc I never said that. figueroa street shooting; jeffrey friedman chiropractor; gifted child humming; how to adjust sim max driver; midlife crisis when the fog lifts. He said I am wrong and that he doesnt want this to keep coming up but also said it shouldnt matter, as we are not working on us right now regardless. I have a party for my brother Saturday night, which a year ago, would be an absolute given we would go as a family. Trying to be supportive. I need to STICK to the 180 and FULLY DO IT, It is just SO hard, Im so afraid of pushing him away by me pulling away, Im afraid that ill pull away and give him all this freedom and he will just take advantage and feel really great doing things without me. Do the 180 the best you can for yourself. I dont know why I feel that way, I dont think thats how he sees it. If I cant wrap my head around it all still. When she was messaging me nasty messages he couldnt stand up for me. By the end of 6 months I could have lived a year with my children if he didnt pay me a dime. Now your H may use any of this as an excuse. I asked him if he would be willing to go, and he said yes. Linda: Honestly, this is why its so difficult to pinpoint because most of the time, when you start doing the things like checking the phone records or talking to the [affair partners]husband, what happens is they end up getting more secretive. And I wont back down. I am trying so hard to stay busy to make him wonder what im up to, but its just exhausting me to feel like I always have to be gone when he gets home, or be doing things. (He has ED, so..). As you all have experienced this pain, no need to go into great detail. When I was pregnant and this all first happened, I should have absolutely stuck to kicking him out. He is supposed to move in with me in a few months and I dont know how that will work. It can be turned around. d. You suggest MC for you as a couple. Thank you for another dose of great advice. I think that is the only advice I can give. I think im just going to tell him about it and say if he would like to join us we would love it, but I have a feeling he isnt going to and then im going to take it personally. I know that. Its not real. They believe this new love is real. You will never regret standing up for yourself. I dont even know how ill EVER trust him again which is a whole other issue in itself. And living in limbo, walking on egg shells day in and day out was not a way to live. Dont we wish we could go back and have a do over. Protect yourself. Im not saying he is but he is acting like one.